December 21 – Future Self. Imagine yourself five years from now. What advice would you give your current self for the year ahead? (Bonus: Write a note to yourself 10 years ago. What would you tell your younger self?) (Author: Jenny Blake)
It’s December 2000. You are putting the finishing touches on your Master’s thesis and already thinking about applying for Ph.D. programs. It’s been a good year, and in the years ahead, you’ll have some fantastic moments and some really trying times.
Take time to reflect on your accomplishments. In May 2001, you’ll march behind a gaggle of bag pipe players to accept your M.A. You worked hard and it paid off. Try to fight that sense that you’re always falling behind in some unknown race. You’re doing just fine. Don’t worry about CUNY not working out; as you’ll soon realize, your drive has always been to teach and taking some time to do that before the Ph.D. program is one of the best decisions you’ll make.
I’d tell you not to marry that guy, but truthfully it was the right decision at that time (and an awesome, fun filled wedding!) Going through the divorce won’t be easy but you’ll learn a lot about yourself, some are things that you knew and some that will surprise you. Accept the process.
Actually, you should make that the motto of your life. You’ll always have this sense that you need to rewrite and change the way you do things because somehow you fall short. It’s not the case; live your life with joy and patience (mostly with yourself but with those around you as well) and you’ll reap the rewards.
Enjoy the time you spend with your friends and family. One of the biggest challenges in your life will be all the moving around you’ll do. It’s not easy to connect and keep in touch with your friends and family when you keep moving to different states every few years. Slow down, smile, and laugh. Tell people they are important to you. Some of the best times in your life will be spent with people you don’t get to see often after you move. (Especially your friends that surround you now, while you’re living in New York.)
Some of these things you’re still working on, and probably will be for many years to come. Be forgiving: true change takes time. As the Ph.D. will teach you, some things are well worth the wait.